ERICA DUNOMES

We are on the same vein of talking about relationships. Marriage is the topic as you can see. I’m excited. Last week, my husband shared seven of the things that he’s learned in our 13 years together. Today, I will be finishing off our 13 Things We’ve Learned in 13 Years of Marriage by sharing with you six things that I have learned.

Did you enjoy what my husband shared? What were your thoughts? All of them were good to me. I especially loved what he mentioned about marriage being beneficial. One of the things that I have discovered about myself, since being married, is that I find that I constantly want to grow to be the best I can be in everything.

So much about who I am has changed since being married to my husband. Let me clearly say that I don’t mean that in a bad way. It has all been good. Praise God! Things were definitely rough in the beginning. God has brought us through. Now, let’s dig in.

Erica: Here are six things that I have learned in 13 years of marriage.

8.God must be the Head of your marriage. I mean, marriage began with Him as the orchestrator of it, right?

9. Next to God, the vows you made before God and to each other need to be honored no matter what. There’s a saying that I hear that just bothers me. That is that marriage is just a piece of paper. No, it isn’t. It is so much more. Marriage is a sacred covenant.

10. Respecting your husband is non-negotiable. It’s not predicated on what he does or how he treats you. It’s predicated on his position in the marriage and God’s position as Head of your life individually and in your union with your husband.

11. A husband and wife should cover each other at all times. Noone should know about the issues you are having in your marriage unless you are seeking wise counsel from a trusted friend or counselor. Don’t seek opportunities to put your spouse on the front street either. It’s demeaning and disrespectful.

12. Let not your heart become hard towards your spouse. This is where divorce is comes from. This is why marriages come to an end leaving so many affected by its aftermath. Honor the commandment of love towards God and towards each other always.

13. Always communicate, even when it is hard. Talk out your issues no matter how uncomfortable one of you may be. Husbands and wives should be able to listen to what each other has to say. Communicate even if there are no issues.

There you have it.

Marriage is a beautiful thing. There is always something to be learned if you are willing to pay attention. Are you married? Which one of the things learned was something new to you about your marriage?