ERICA DUNOMES

Today, we are talking about relationships, preferably marriage. Next week, my husband and I will be celebrating our 13th wedding anniversary. I thought that it would be really cool to share with you 13 Things we’ve learned in 13 years of marriage.

At first, I was going to write this article on the solo about thirteen things that I’ve learned. I certainly have the list to do so. However, I realized that I have not been doing this marriage alone. My husband, Carlos, has been doing marriage with me. Together, as one in Christ, we make our marriage. It seemed only right to have his input on what he has learned too.

I thought that it would be best to break these down into two parts. Carlos will share his seven things in part one, and I will follow behind him next week with my six. So, without further ado, let’s dig in.

Carlos: Seven things I’ve learned in 13 years of marriage.

1.Divorce is sin. God never intended for there to be divorce in any marriage. When He joined man and woman together, He stated that through the union, the two become one flesh.

God’s original design of marriage is for a man and a wife to unite together as one, becoming a family forever. Divorce was never supposed to be a part of that.

2. Blended families are a result of sin. Blended families stem from either fornication or divorce. Both of which are not pleasing in the eyes of God. However, by His mercy and grace, He does still bless blended families.

3. Marriage should not be based on feelings. Marriage should be based on purpose.

4. Every marriage has its strengths and weaknesses. Each individual brings their strengths and weaknesses to the marriage. When the two become one, their strengths and weaknesses come together.

5. Marriage is necessary. If a person will be lonely without marriage, then marriage is necessary. If a person doesn’t mind being lonely then why would they need to be married?

6. Marriage is beneficial. When done right, marriage multiplies the potential of each individual in the marriage.

7. You can see God through your spouse. Each person in the marriage has qualities in Christ. You just have to look and pay attention.

Short, sweet, and to the point.

So, there you have it. These are my husband’s answers as to some of the things he’s learned in our 13 years together. Stay tuned next week for part two when I share my six things that I have learned.

Are you married? If so, how long has it been for you and your spouse?